When you
are in school,
it is very hard to know where to draw the
line between pursuing someone you are interested
and overdoing it.
Here are
some tips to know how to handle the situation.
The
Chase
As
you share classes,
go out in groups and notice one another
in the library, cafeteria or campus, the
game becomes more enticing. Should you go
over? The suggested course of action is
to be cordial but not obvious. People need
space and dislike claustrophobia.
Step
By Step
In
other words, if you take a leap of faith
forward, wait to see whether they take the
leap with you or run away. No sense in taking
too many steps only to find yourself ahead
of the relationship. So curb your raging
enthusiasm.
People
Like Challenges
Even
the most conservative and boring person
wants to prove himself. You know that expression
about wanting what you cannot have? It is
tailored to love and relationships. Some
people get turned on when they find out
that someone likes them. But when the ego
rush subsides, we still want a challenge.
Nobody wants love to happen too easily.
People
say they want honesty, openness and no games
but they seldom back this up. Once we have
a stable relationship, we often seek a new
challenge and a new horizon.
When
you chase after someone, you become vulnerable
to rejection. Men and women love challenges.
It may be childish but we like to overcome
obstacles, win and not have something fall
into our lap. A ''sure thing'' requires
no effort and becomes a notch on our belt.
Once conquered, we move on to the next opportunity.
The fact is however, that people often want
what they once had but lost. When they had
it, they wanted something new. Sound familiar?
Is
this lying? No, it is playing the game.
The rules can be unfair.
Be
it in life or love, throwing yourself at
someone is the wrong move. It can ruin your
confidence and sense of respect. Always
take a couple of steps back to see whether
people lean forward or drop from the scene
altogether.
Sometimes,
the chase is more interesting that the actual
relationship.
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